Being a caregiver can be hard, both physically and emotionally. It’s normal to feel satisfied some days and frustrated, angry or resentful on others. Caregivers can also feel lonely and isolated.
Create your own sanctuary
Supporting someone with cancer can feel draining at times. Make sure you have support for yourself. Find a place or activity that is not related to your role as a caregiver, so that you have a sanctuary to go to for a set period of time every day. This might be something like going to the gym or swimming pool every day or gardening or perhaps doing a course – just for you. Learning and practising relaxation or meditation for a short time each day may be helpful too.
Home help and financial support
There are many services that can help caregivers who are looking after someone with cancer at home like home help, Meals on Wheels or nurse home visits.
You may also be able to get a carer’s payment or allowance from Centrelink. Ask your GP or a social worker at the hospital about other support for caregivers.
What if I’m not coping
Many people with cancer experience anxiety or depression, and many caregivers do too. It’s important to know the signs that you’re not coping and talk to someone who can help. These include:
feeling exhausted and overwhelmed all the time
feeling sad (or angry) all the time
gaining or losing a lot of weight
trouble sleeping
drinking a lot of alcohol or using drugs.
Peer support is a good way to meet other caregivers and share ways of coping. Many cancer support groups and education programs are open to caregivers as well.
Talk to your GP or ask a nurse or social worker to recommend a health professional who can help you (counsellor or psychologist) or a cancer support group in your local area.
Caring for someone with cancer can be tiring and isolating. If someone who you have cared for dies, it can be hard to go back to work or activities you did before. Be patient with yourself, and ask someone you feel close to and trust to support you when doing these activities again for the first time.
The Australian Government provides payments, counselling and financial services to help people adjust to life after someone close to them has died. Call Centrelink on 13 27 17 or contact your local Centrelink office to find out if you are eligible for bereavement (grief) payment or allowance.
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